inner conflict

We think of agitation as being an annoyance in our day-to-day life. When circumstances come up that aggravate us or things are spinning in our head all day long like the spin cycle on a washing machine, we get annoyed. But when you stop to really think about the process of cleaning anything, there must be an action of some type of agitation that lifts or pushes the dirt off.

In my approach as a facilitator, I get people spinning outside of their normal thought processes, and I purposely agitate them so that they can emerge lighter, clearer and begin their transformation from the inside out.

For example, one native woman slouched in her chair during a group circle discussion. When I asked her why she wasn’t sitting up straight, she told me that she was ‘carrying the weight of all her people’. “Are you kidding me?” I agitated her through the conversation. “You’re choosing to carry all the weight of your people?? And if so, please don’t carry mine, I can carry my own.” Perturbed, she walked out of the session. Later that evening she returned. “You made me realize that I don’t need to carry the weight of all my people”, she admitted. That was a pivotal moment for her. She’d been in a spin for years thinking this way, and what was needed was some agitation to snap her out of it.

Agitation did the cleansing. Don’t be annoyed or afraid of it. The longer the agitation cycle, the more cleaning that get’s done.